Monday, July 27, 2009

Your face is sarcastic!

"O ye who believe! Let not some men among you laugh at others: It may be that the (latter) are better than the (former): Nor let some women laugh at others: It may be that the (latter are better than the (former): Nor defame nor be SARCASTIC to each other, nor call each other by (offensive) nicknames: Ill-seeming is a name connoting wickedness, (to be used of one) after he has believed: And those who do not desist are (indeed) doing wrong. (The Noble Quran, 49:11)"

I HATE it when people say something really rude and insulting, and then when you show you're annoyed they say, "oh come on, I was just being sarcastic!"
If you're gonna be mean, be mean...don't give a stupid excuse afterwards...especially one that really does absolutely nothing for your case!

First - most people don't ever use the word 'sarcasm' in the proper context...
if you say something that is ironic and you're just trying to be funny...that's NOT sarcasm...that's just IRONY...loser.
if you are just saying something mean...and there is not any irony involved..that's just being mean...
if you are being ironic and intentionally mean...that is sarcasm....if you don't know how the person will take it...well it worth possibly pissing someone off? If you don't care, go ahead.
Main Entry:
sar·casm Pronunciation: \ˈsär-ˌka-zəm\ Function:noun Etymology:French or Late Latin; French sarcasme, from Late Latin sarcasmos, from Greek sarkasmos, from sarkazein to tear flesh, bite the lips in rage, sneer, from sark-, sarx flesh; probably akin to Avestan thwarəs- to cutDate:1550 1: a sharp and often satirical or ironic utterance designed to cut or give pain
2 a: a mode of satirical wit depending for its effect on bitter, caustic, and often ironic language that is usually directed against an individual b: the use or language of sarcasm

...did everyone catch that part about tearing flesh and biting the lips in rage!?

You are insulting me, and I don't think it is ok, and I don't think it's funny. I guess it really is my ego that get's the most of it...because it pisses me off to
think someone would think they're clever enough to say something like that to me...and think I'm too dumb to understand I'm being insulted.....and when they realize I'm not, think that I should be ok with it....? nein...das ist nicht gut.
"...aww shucks, I didn't know you were being sarcastic! foolish of me! Never you mind! go right ahead (and insult me)..."

I love satire and ironic statements...
and I'm not even saying for people to not be sarcastic...I do think that would be best, but I would be a complete hypocrite if I told people to stop...I think it's hilarious when aimed at inanimate objects, political figures I don't like, people who are sarcastic towards me...

I'm just saying,
1. Use it in the right context - if you say you're being sarcastic but you're not actually being mean...then stop calling it sarcasm.
2. If you are fully aware of the meaning, and you know you are using it properly, don't say, "i was just kidding" or,
"I'm sorry...I was being sarcastic" ...that's just stupid. (see, that's not sarcasm, because im actually saying you're stupid, and it's also not ironic because it really is stupid)
I'll probably give an annoyed look and say nothing (for some reason the person who acts defensively, is the one who is looked at strangely...wth?)
...and in my mind I will God, how this person bothers me...
I might say "that's not funny." with a straight face (it intimidates)...
or I might just look confused and say "hmm?" annoys the crap out of the person because they really do want people to get their sarcasm, and it's not like they can clarify...I mean God forbid they actually express what they're thinking...cowards...

There is of course wanting genuine forgiveness for something you feel remorseful for...
this won't take back what you said...or what you were thinking :ahem:...
but when a person is absolutely guilt ridden about how bad they made a person feel...and they go to that person for forgiveness...
it like makes you think... "aww, what did they ever do to me again?" and then that thing just disappears...hmm...maybe only with me? ok.

Peace izzle' shizzle

loser-person - you just take everything too seriously...
torpekai - ok...
loser-person - HAHA..j/k j/k i'm just being sarcastic...:looks knowing:
torpekai - idiot.

enjoy this clip on sarcasm by the awesome Jon Stewart

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Mona lisa smile...or don't...whichever you want

I don't label myself as a feminist...but because I do speak against men who say things or act in manners lessening the
status of a woman I get labeled as one by others...

but...I like men just as much as I like women...which isn't very much.

For years as I was growing up I blamed women for allowing themselves to be oppressed.
I asked why Afghan women who saw and felt how they were treated by their fathers, brothers, and husbands, raise their
sons to be exactly the same: spoiled princes (without the charm or wealth).

Recently, after working with more males and people coming to me to listen to their marriage woes (why? what the hell do i know??), and studying male-female styles of communication in school, I started seeing this pattern of male insecurity leading to the need to control others; not just women...and so now I blame for their own emotional issues and women for theirs...stop being emotional people!

I have become convinced that it is (mostly) a woman's stupidity and/or need to care (which is at least innocent)
and a man's insecurity (inflated ego), which has made it ok for men to have such a controlling nature - men try to make women insecure about themselves, in order to heighten their own
security...and women just let it happen because they fall for it...they believe it. They don't question the logic of what the guy says
because they trust the person who helps take care of them...stupid.

My way of thinking has nothing to do with the roles I believe the genders take on...
I do believe men are the caretakers of women...but what happens when they are not taking care at all or when
they go too far for their own selfish reasons (which I believe are based on their insecurities)...someone like me stands up
to it and depending on the time/location/society gets called something like a feminist, liberal, shameless...

I see how our society has developed into one where women are encouraged to take on higher education
and have careers while also taking care of their households...
How fair is that? Now they are career women and house wives as well? (and still on a national average get paid less than men!) I think it's great for women to have a choice to do what they want, but personally I don't see the luxury in doing both at once...actually, personally I want an education because I love learning, but don't WANT to work...i just want to be able to work if I want to work, which i don't want...sometimes the stress I feel from thinking about work is overwhelming, and it makes me grateful that it will not be my duty to take care of my family even makes me sympathetic towards whoever will be :(
I just want to keep learning things and helping out at different non-profit organizations that I like...and live off my dad/future husband's $$
oh...and not send my kids off to a day care Inshallah...
oook...i do believe these things are situational...Allahu Alam

end point - people need to sthu and be happy with what they have and not take their own shortcomings out on others...
Men - stop being crazy egotistic and insecure
Women - start being supportive and not too demanding...and stop letting men treat you like shaysa

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Your (insert anything you feel like) is haram!

The Heirs of the Prophets
Grazing the Gardens
Reluctance in giving religious verdicts

Written by : Ibn Rajab Al-Hanbali
Translated by: Imam Zaid Shakir

The early imams were cautious about speaking about [the lawful and unlawful], because one who speaks about these matters is relating information from Allah, enunciating His commandments and prohibitions, and passing on His sacred law. It was said about Ibn Sirin, "If he was asked about something regarding the lawful or unlawful, his color would change. He would be transformed until he no longer seemed the same person." Ata ibn al-Saib said, "I met people who, when asked for a religious verdict, would tremble as they spoke." It is related that when Imam Malik was asked about a legal matter, it was as if he were suspended between Heaven and Hell.

Imam Ahmed was extremely hesitant to speak on the lawful and unlawful, to claim that something was abrogated, or related matters which others would too readily expound. He frequently prefaced his answers with phrases such as, "I hope that...," "I fear...," or "It is more beloved to me..." Imam Malik and others used to say, "I do not know." Imam Ahmed would often say on an issue about which the righteous forbears had various opinions, "The most likely answer is, 'I do not know.'"