"love isn't real, its just a fantasy"---500 days of summer
A friend quoted this movie...which i have not seen...but i liked the quote..
I used to wonder if love was real in like...8th grade.
i don't mean ooh lala lovey dovey - love at first sight junk...i mean every kind of love - love of your family, friends, wealth, health...anything that can be loved.
i came to this conclusion - love is only real when it's love for Allah (God,) all other loves are really just infatuations...
an infatuation for anything...a lust.
i.e. anything that is not loved for the sake of Allah is a vain attempt at love....just an infatuation...a false hope...a lust or a desire from the nafs/ego that we need to learn to suppress.
when you love for anything other than Allah you can trust that you will be disappointed by that thing - it can never make you truly happy
when your ultimate goal for happiness is Allah, then it doesn't matter what happens to you. you are happy with any outcome because you know Allah is the best of Planners and that being upset with something that has happened to you, is ultimately being upset with the will of Allah.
What wisdom is there in being upset with the one most deserving of your love? At the very least - what wisdom is there in being upset with the one who decides your eternity?
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“How wonderful is the affair of the believer, for it is all good, and this does not apply to anyone except the believer. If something good happens to him, he gives thanks for it and that is good for him, and if something bad happens to him he bears it with patience and that is good for him.” Narrated by Muslim, 2999.